In 2010...

This might just be my last blog of 2009. But don't worry i will be writing many more in 2010. Once a new year comes around everyone makes the ever so famous "New Years Resolutions" which basically only last the first two months and people are back to do there regular two step and going back to how they used to be or what they used to normally do. I decided that for my 2010 new years resolution i will simple "STAY TRUE TO MYSELF". Next year I will be..



Goofy.. 
goofy |ˈgoōfē| adjective ( goofier , goofiest ) informal
1 foolish; harmlessly eccentric..

Reserved..reserved |riˈzərvd|adjective1 slow to reveal emotion or opinions. 2 kept specially for a particular purpose or person.Lovable..lovable |ˈləvəbəl| (also loveable)adjectiveinspiring or deserving love or affection.MySelf..myself |mīˈself; mə-|pronoun [ first person singular ]1 [ reflexive ] used by a speaker to refer to himself or herself as the object of a verb or preposition when he or she is the subject of the clause.

Why make up a list of things you want to do and accomplish? Be yourself, Be

original, Be spontaneous, Be unique, Be focused, Be well grounded... a resolution
should not be.. I want  lose 20 lbs by the summer, or want to make this much

money by the winter. NO! If anything one other new years resolution should be to

"Better Yourself". If you stay true to yourself and do things to better yourself... trust

me... you will better your situation. Slowly but surely by doing that you will achieve

all the goals you want to achieve without even realizing it. =)

ME FAKE??? NO WAY JOSE!!!

So today i was told i was FAKE. *long silence* Want to know why i was called fake??? Because i simply wear make up... *giggles* If you know me well enough, and have been a friend of mines for a long time... then you would know that i am absolutely obsessed with make up [MAC Make-up :) preferable]. To be told i was fake because of what i wear on my face seems to be oddly hilarious to me. "Never judge a book  by it cover". My definition of Fake is:
  
Fake : |fāk|
nouna thing that is not genuine; a forgery or sham: the painting was a fake.* a person who appears or claims to be something that they are not.

Now i got that from the dictionary! No where in there does it say you are fake because you wear make up. In a sense it tickles me to know someone would think that of me knowing that i'm far from being anything near the word FAKE. To Judge me is to know me. And if you don't know me... then don't judge me. Simple isn't it? To all my followers and anonymous blog readers... Never let someone knock you for what you wear.. how you do your hair.. the music you like.. or how you do your make up. Its one thing to criticize but another to make assumptions on someone personality without knowing them. I rather the person say "Hey why are you so weird?" rather then "Hey why are you so fake?" Because rather then being FAKE i am a little WERID and oddly STRANGE lol but then again... who am i to judge myself??? *giggle*

7 Signs.. To know you mean nothing to them.

This will be a very short, getting right to the point blog. Here are 7 signs that he/she is a flaw, creep, and running game on you. In my opinion its time to let them go if you are experiencing any of the following...


*  THEY ALWAYS CALLING YOU BLOCK - If you are seeing this person [meaning boyfriend/girlfriend] and they always call you off a block number.. *serious face* now you know... something ain't right if you can't have your boyfriends/girlfriends phone number lol!


*  THEY ONLY TRIES TO SEE YOU AFTER 10PM - You are simply a booty call. [period. point.blank]


*  AFTER 1 YEAR YOU HAVEN'T MET ANY FAMILY MEMBERS - lol... this is because someone else is already in the family. 


*  YOU CAN NEVER GO OUT ON A DATE WITH THEM - This is because they do not want to be seen in public with you. Word can get out and their cover will be blown!


* YOUR NUMBER IS NOT SAVE IN THIER PHONE - you tell me why your number isn't saved in their phone.. i would love to hear you answer!


*  HIS/HER PHONE STAYS BLOWING UP WITH LATE NIGHT CALLS/TXT -  Obviously "someone" is trying to reach them and it ain't YOU.


* YOU FIND A USED CONDOM IN THERE BED ROOM - Well........ This should speak for its self. The End!!!


IDK why i wrote this blog lol but i just felt like sometimes we settle for less because we are blinded by the love or lust.. whatever it is that makes you oblivious to the signs that are staring us right in the face. Trust me there are many many many more signs but for now these are the ones that came to my head and tickled me. *giggles* Love is truly blinding to some of us.. and sometimes we the opinion of an outside viewer to help us see our mistakes [proof readers] :) ohhh and if you can relate with any of these signs *serious face* i think you need to do like Keyshia Cole's song and "LET IT GO" 8)

Have You Found The One?

How do you know when you have found the one? That is a question i have had on my mind for a while. I think we have all had that one special person in our life who we ALWAYS compare everyone else too.. right? 95% of the time when we are with someone NEW we always have in the back of our minds that OTHER person who we compare and contrast with everyone who has the potential of being with you. I feel one good way you can tell you have found the one is when you stop comparing to that certain person you have held on a pedestal for so long. When you are finally able to be with a new person and see them for them, i think an alarm should go off in your head *ding ding ding* that its time to take the OLD person off that pedestal, kick them to the curb, and add this new person to the top. There is no need to hold on to the past, the only things we should hold on to are the memories wither they were good or bad. In my opinion "if one person is not doing the job right... it's time to lay them off... because there is always someone else who has a good well written resume and is ready to apply for the job." Be with someone who makes you laugh, be with someone who makes you smile, be with someone who shows you they care, and be with someone who wants to be with YOU :)


Never settle for less then what you deserve.

...DiFFeReNt...

I decided to be a totally different person 2010. This year has been full of up's and down's for me. Meeting new friends, Breaking ties with old friends, changing my living situation, changing my career path, and etc. Normally i try to always keep things on a neutral level with everyone.. wither they do me wrong, i never hold a grudge [hey what can i say.. i have always been a nice :) person].  But i think come 2010 my new years resolution will be one word... "Different".  I will do things DIFFERENT, think things DIFFERENT, and see things DIFFERENT. It's time for a change... "who's with me?" *looks around the room* I have always been the type of person to be quite and observe things around other people.. but i never sat back to observe what's going on with me. Sometimes we have to step outside ourselves and pin point the things in our life that are holding us back and bring negativity.. and simply GET RID OF THEM. For me 2010 will be about just being different and doing things in a different manner. *mumbles* and go on a diet but.. thats on the top of everyones new years resolution list isn't it? *giggles*

Action Speak Louder The Words

I think the title of this blog speaks for its self? Don't you agree. I have a couple of pet peeves but the three that really really really just crawl under my skin are..


* Constantly Questioning Me.
* Having To Repeating Myself.
* People Who Are All Talk & No Action.

Why.. why tell someone one thing but act a different way? If you say something, your literally just speaking. There is this old saying i'm pretty sure everyone has heard when they were a child "Sticks & Stone May Break My Bones... But Words Will Never Hurt Me." When i first heard this when i was younger i took it in as.. no matter what a person says to you to try and hurt your feelings, lower your self esteem, and bring down your ego.. words are simply words.. although it may hurt your feelings at the moment they are said.. they can not do any physical damage to you because they are simply WORDS nothing more or nothing less. But when i start to look at it from a different perspective.. Words can not hurt me... Correct... But Sticks and Stones can really hurt if someone throw that shit at you hard enough! Because it is a action someone is doing to physical hurt you. So in this situation ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THEN THE WORDS.... The whole point i'm trying to get to is WHY constantly tell someone certain things and not put any effort into what you are saying??? i don't get the point. "Don't talk about it, be about it." Thats just how i feel. Someone can keep telling me they gonna give me a million dollars... but until i see you put that mill in my hands... all that shit you talking don't mean a damn thing. period. point. blank.end of convo. I don't have time for games and i'm pretty sure you guys don't either. The last thing i let people do is play with my emotions, family, & my money. If you miss someone.. SEE THEM. If you love someone.. TELL THEM. If you want to be with someone put in the EFFORT. Use actions to show someone you care.. Words go in one ear and out the other.. So unless you throwing a stick or stone at me to get my attention... i ain't looking back to hear you.

Excepting Change

Change is a good thing. Excepting the change is the hard part. I have never been good at excepting change and the process you have to go through before change takes place. I have been going through some changes in my life lately that has me readjusting to certain situations.. and in the beginning i never showed any emotions [i think i'm always a reserved person when my emotions come into play] and i just tried to go with the flow and do what i had to do to get to where i had to go. But today is when it hit me that with change.. some things will never be the same anymore... and sometimes [depending on the situation] that can be a scary thought. When you are used to a everyday routine that gets  familiar and safe, changing it to something that is unfamiliar and scary can take a toll on you. I guess gradually you will get used to change which is most likely what happens when change takes place. Im always for moving forward with your life because the sky is the limit *biggie smalls voice* ... but let me be the first to say EXCEPTING CHANGE IS NEVER EASY. Sometimes i wish things can go back to how it used to be.. but Everything Happens For A Reason, Always Gotta Keep Your Head Up, Have Tunnel Vision To Focus On What Your Trying Reach, and Keep It Moving Forward. 

The only reason you should look back through your rear view mirror is to laugh at silly memories and think back on previous life lessons learned. Keep your eyes focused on your windshield and stay on the right path to where life has to take you. -Stephanie Riles