Side Chick #1 or Side Chick #2 ???

So i woke up today and for some very odd reason this topic was in my head. Now this may not be something everyone can relate too, this is manly for my ladies.. but have you ever wondered if you were just a side chick to a dude you have been talking to? [FYI this is not a question i'm trying to figure up about my own personal life, its just something that randomly popped in my head... must of been a dream i had or something lol] now before you answer... while i was thinking about this i noticed that there are two different types of side chicks. 


SIDE CHICK #1: You are the one who questions your relationship with your man.. for example if you know your man still has connections with one of his ex girlfriends [side chick #2] or baby mommas [can perhaps land in the side chick #2 catagory too lol]... your always thinking in the back of your head if they will ever get back together? And[or] if you are just a rebound chick for the time being?.... Oooooor you just know that your man see's other girls and you are just there TEMPORARILY. 


SIDE CHICK #2: You are the one who still keeps in contact with that one true love [an ex].. even though you know that they are involved with someone else... you still know that you hold that spot where you can steal him away TEMPORARILY from the other girl [side chick #1].


I can honestly say that i have been in both spots in the PAST [sad but true]. Now my question is.. WHY? Why must we have to wonder if we are a side chick to someone we love [or catching feelings for]? And sadly why do we sometimes KNOW we are a side chick and continue to stay and put ourselves in a hurtful situation? Either way if you find yourself in slot #1 or #2 ... it still hurts. My only advice i have to give you is.... if you EVER have to question [or know] you are a side chick... there is no point of being in that relationship! Leave and run away from that dude FULL SPEED!!!!!! Ladies.. what we deserve is love, happiness, and peace at mind. When you are with someone and you know that there love is for you and only you, then you know you have found the one. STRAIGHT UP! No one, male or female should have to wonder.. Is he [she] cheating on me? Is he [she] with her [him]? Does he [she] still love her [him]? Those are questions that you should NOT even be asking yourself. Never let anyone use you. I don't believe in using anyone for anything, and i treat other the way i would want to be treated. Sometimes in life we run into people who take advantage of our heart, feelings, gratitude, kindness, and love. The best thing to do in a situation like this is to walk away before things get worse. Don't ever subject yourself to standers lower then your expectations...[and we should all have high expectations]. We all deserve the finer things in life *long pause* and being a side chick is surely not in the FINER category!

Any Regrets?..... NO!

I have never liked change. I have always been the type of person who liked to keep the normal routine... "Get in, Get Out, & Get on with your life." Lately for me it has been change, after change, after change...*long pause*... after change! For my personal life, to my work like, to my living situations... i feel like my whole life is changing right before my eyes. Maybe i am to proud to admit it but deep inside i am afraid of change...no no no... more like terrified. I feel like when things change you lose a part of yourself with it. Although i have not gotten used to all the changes that are taking part in my life now... i will say i am starting to accept things. I think there is a process with change.. Accepting it, Get used to it, and finally changing. They say sometimes change is a good thing. Which is true. In a way i look forward to what's a ahead for me in my life and future.. but at times it is scary. I am original from Miami, Florida and i took a road trip to Indianapolis, Indiana [Plainfeild, IN to be exact] to visit my mom, and let me tell you... it is a huge transition. From sun and beaches to snow and farms. Since a lot of things have been changing for me i have really just been in my own zone lately.. especially being that it is a new year i have really been on a whole other vibe. I look at how people react before i react and i take the time out to actually visualize what it going on. I notice the difference in attitudes people have here in Indiana compared to Miami [they are WAY more nicer then people in Florida!] , the difference in life style, music, food, culture, and just everyday living. I notice LIFE. All this time i was confided to my one area doing my same everyday routine, when there is a huge world out there to be explored. Now i'm not saying go explore the world.. [but if you do i admire you because that is something i would really like to do] but sometime you just have to see for yourself that there are other things in the world besides what you do everyday! There are other people, other places, other worlds! It took CHANGE to happened to me to realize that i was only secluding myself from other great opportunities. I do not regret the things that have happened to me thus far in my life, nor the people that have come in and out of my life. Lesson learn is what i have gained.. kind of like a crash course test of life. What i can say is although i have not live life to its fullest...[yet...] i think i have enough knowledge to know right from wrong.. with business, friends, money, and life choices. Yes Change is hard...[very hard at time]... Sitting back and having regret on the things in my life that have change.... No! 

Everything Happens For A Reason... Let Go & Let Be... Simply Life Life To It's Fullest. With No Regrets. 

New Year! New Beginnings!

*paula deans voice* Hey Yall... It's 2010!!!!! *dances around my room*  Soooo we finally made it to the new decade! A lot of things have happened to me in the past ten years... and lets just say i'm finally happy to put it all behind me and move forward with my life. Although we will all face more negativity in our future... i for one can say that i will learn how to deal with it from my past experiences from 2000-2009 *may those years R.I.P*. I just read some post's on Facebook a certain individual who i was VERY CLOSE with wrote about me.. and let's just say they were not true or nice... and i did not feel mad or sad... the only emotion i felt was pitty. Pitty because this person was entering this new year with lies, stress, and deceit. Along with the 2000-2009 i have also left this person in the past. Why... Why continue with the drama? I vow to let things "BE" with everyone. I recently went through my phone and deleted all the numbers of people who i feel i do not need to keep in contact with in this new year. *i'm not good with memorizing numbers so once its deleted out my iphone it's deleted out my memory lol* Make this year all about yourself! Put yourself 1st!!! Think about your feelings before the next person!!! & Don't let anyone take advantage of you!!! "Be careful with who you give your heart to and who you let into your life." 


2010: We Only Have One Life To Live. So Live It To It's Fullest. =)


The reason i put my eyes as the blog picture is because "i see no evil" i can see right through a lot of people and there ways... Use your eyes to visualize what you want in life and distinguish right from wrong... and who is RIGHT and who is WRONG in your life... [if you know what i mean]. ;). 


...Be Blessed This New Years! 

In 2010...

This might just be my last blog of 2009. But don't worry i will be writing many more in 2010. Once a new year comes around everyone makes the ever so famous "New Years Resolutions" which basically only last the first two months and people are back to do there regular two step and going back to how they used to be or what they used to normally do. I decided that for my 2010 new years resolution i will simple "STAY TRUE TO MYSELF". Next year I will be..



Goofy.. 
goofy |ˈgoōfē| adjective ( goofier , goofiest ) informal
1 foolish; harmlessly eccentric..

Reserved..reserved |riˈzərvd|adjective1 slow to reveal emotion or opinions. 2 kept specially for a particular purpose or person.Lovable..lovable |ˈləvəbəl| (also loveable)adjectiveinspiring or deserving love or affection.MySelf..myself |mīˈself; mə-|pronoun [ first person singular ]1 [ reflexive ] used by a speaker to refer to himself or herself as the object of a verb or preposition when he or she is the subject of the clause.

Why make up a list of things you want to do and accomplish? Be yourself, Be

original, Be spontaneous, Be unique, Be focused, Be well grounded... a resolution
should not be.. I want  lose 20 lbs by the summer, or want to make this much

money by the winter. NO! If anything one other new years resolution should be to

"Better Yourself". If you stay true to yourself and do things to better yourself... trust

me... you will better your situation. Slowly but surely by doing that you will achieve

all the goals you want to achieve without even realizing it. =)

ME FAKE??? NO WAY JOSE!!!

So today i was told i was FAKE. *long silence* Want to know why i was called fake??? Because i simply wear make up... *giggles* If you know me well enough, and have been a friend of mines for a long time... then you would know that i am absolutely obsessed with make up [MAC Make-up :) preferable]. To be told i was fake because of what i wear on my face seems to be oddly hilarious to me. "Never judge a book  by it cover". My definition of Fake is:
  
Fake : |fāk|
nouna thing that is not genuine; a forgery or sham: the painting was a fake.* a person who appears or claims to be something that they are not.

Now i got that from the dictionary! No where in there does it say you are fake because you wear make up. In a sense it tickles me to know someone would think that of me knowing that i'm far from being anything near the word FAKE. To Judge me is to know me. And if you don't know me... then don't judge me. Simple isn't it? To all my followers and anonymous blog readers... Never let someone knock you for what you wear.. how you do your hair.. the music you like.. or how you do your make up. Its one thing to criticize but another to make assumptions on someone personality without knowing them. I rather the person say "Hey why are you so weird?" rather then "Hey why are you so fake?" Because rather then being FAKE i am a little WERID and oddly STRANGE lol but then again... who am i to judge myself??? *giggle*

7 Signs.. To know you mean nothing to them.

This will be a very short, getting right to the point blog. Here are 7 signs that he/she is a flaw, creep, and running game on you. In my opinion its time to let them go if you are experiencing any of the following...


*  THEY ALWAYS CALLING YOU BLOCK - If you are seeing this person [meaning boyfriend/girlfriend] and they always call you off a block number.. *serious face* now you know... something ain't right if you can't have your boyfriends/girlfriends phone number lol!


*  THEY ONLY TRIES TO SEE YOU AFTER 10PM - You are simply a booty call. [period. point.blank]


*  AFTER 1 YEAR YOU HAVEN'T MET ANY FAMILY MEMBERS - lol... this is because someone else is already in the family. 


*  YOU CAN NEVER GO OUT ON A DATE WITH THEM - This is because they do not want to be seen in public with you. Word can get out and their cover will be blown!


* YOUR NUMBER IS NOT SAVE IN THIER PHONE - you tell me why your number isn't saved in their phone.. i would love to hear you answer!


*  HIS/HER PHONE STAYS BLOWING UP WITH LATE NIGHT CALLS/TXT -  Obviously "someone" is trying to reach them and it ain't YOU.


* YOU FIND A USED CONDOM IN THERE BED ROOM - Well........ This should speak for its self. The End!!!


IDK why i wrote this blog lol but i just felt like sometimes we settle for less because we are blinded by the love or lust.. whatever it is that makes you oblivious to the signs that are staring us right in the face. Trust me there are many many many more signs but for now these are the ones that came to my head and tickled me. *giggles* Love is truly blinding to some of us.. and sometimes we the opinion of an outside viewer to help us see our mistakes [proof readers] :) ohhh and if you can relate with any of these signs *serious face* i think you need to do like Keyshia Cole's song and "LET IT GO" 8)

Have You Found The One?

How do you know when you have found the one? That is a question i have had on my mind for a while. I think we have all had that one special person in our life who we ALWAYS compare everyone else too.. right? 95% of the time when we are with someone NEW we always have in the back of our minds that OTHER person who we compare and contrast with everyone who has the potential of being with you. I feel one good way you can tell you have found the one is when you stop comparing to that certain person you have held on a pedestal for so long. When you are finally able to be with a new person and see them for them, i think an alarm should go off in your head *ding ding ding* that its time to take the OLD person off that pedestal, kick them to the curb, and add this new person to the top. There is no need to hold on to the past, the only things we should hold on to are the memories wither they were good or bad. In my opinion "if one person is not doing the job right... it's time to lay them off... because there is always someone else who has a good well written resume and is ready to apply for the job." Be with someone who makes you laugh, be with someone who makes you smile, be with someone who shows you they care, and be with someone who wants to be with YOU :)


Never settle for less then what you deserve.