See Them For Who They ARE. Not For Who You Want Them To BE.

Before reading any further.. i must warn you that i am VENTING on this blog. The reason i titled this blog "See Them For Who They Are. Not For Who You Want Them To Be" is because i noticed today that in life we make certain excuse's for certain people who don't deserve an excuse. There is a saying "Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me." I really never understood this saying fully. I felt if someone keeps FOOLING you then it should always be shame on them... never on you....SHAME ON THEM FOR FOOLING YOU!!!  But in all reality [now that i GET the quote] it should be shame on you the 2nd time around... because you let the FOOLERY continue on your behalf.  When you are involved with someone wither it is friendship, romantically involved, or involved... the 1st thing you should do is see the person for who they ARE at that moment. Don't make up an excuse for why the person is they way they are, or why they are in the situation they are in. Everything happens for a reason, and i can't STRESS that enough in each blog. Wither is happens for good or for bad it happens for a reason. I'm honestly done with the FUCKERY, FOOLISHNESS, & LIES. NO ONE i repeat NO ONE is worth making excuse's for. If they were worth something NO excuse's would be needed. Treat others how you would want to be treated and respect other people how you would want to be respected. Simple. I have out grown the drama stage in my life a long time ago. My best advice i can give someone in a situation where they see they are not getting treated with the respect they are supposed to be give.. is to walk away. Why Stay? Why stay with someone who does not treat you they way you treat them? Enough is enough. I have never been the type to start drama.. but i can never escape it. I'm pretty sure a lot of you may feel the same way. I always let my kindness get the best of me... but one thing i will not take [and i hope none of you will take] is to let someone continue to try me in my face.. there is a time and place for everything.. and the way you handle things shows what type of person you are. You can go out swinging or quietly fall back. It all depends on the situation at hand and who is at stake. A lot of people [male and female] make the mistake to always let someone do the same stupid actions over and over... people let it become a pattern... a everyday routine. And instead of putting themselves first... they make up that EXCUSE [i'm starting to hate that word] on why they should still be with so & so.. and how "oh he[or she] will never do it again"... BULLSHIT!!! The next time i see someone for who they are QUALITIES, LOYALTY, & HONESTY will take effect ASAP. I got no more time nor patience for MICKEY MOUSE GAMES. Jealously does not play any part in this situation and it never should. THERE IS NO ONE TO EVER BE JEALOUS OF. [trust me on the one!] The principal of the matter is... If i ain't trying you... don't try me! Straight up! Karma is a BITCH. So if i were you i would best try to avoid going that route. 


Vent Over.  Now putting my focus on something more important like... STUDYING.. BLAH!!! O_o

Side Chick #1 or Side Chick #2 ???

So i woke up today and for some very odd reason this topic was in my head. Now this may not be something everyone can relate too, this is manly for my ladies.. but have you ever wondered if you were just a side chick to a dude you have been talking to? [FYI this is not a question i'm trying to figure up about my own personal life, its just something that randomly popped in my head... must of been a dream i had or something lol] now before you answer... while i was thinking about this i noticed that there are two different types of side chicks. 


SIDE CHICK #1: You are the one who questions your relationship with your man.. for example if you know your man still has connections with one of his ex girlfriends [side chick #2] or baby mommas [can perhaps land in the side chick #2 catagory too lol]... your always thinking in the back of your head if they will ever get back together? And[or] if you are just a rebound chick for the time being?.... Oooooor you just know that your man see's other girls and you are just there TEMPORARILY. 


SIDE CHICK #2: You are the one who still keeps in contact with that one true love [an ex].. even though you know that they are involved with someone else... you still know that you hold that spot where you can steal him away TEMPORARILY from the other girl [side chick #1].


I can honestly say that i have been in both spots in the PAST [sad but true]. Now my question is.. WHY? Why must we have to wonder if we are a side chick to someone we love [or catching feelings for]? And sadly why do we sometimes KNOW we are a side chick and continue to stay and put ourselves in a hurtful situation? Either way if you find yourself in slot #1 or #2 ... it still hurts. My only advice i have to give you is.... if you EVER have to question [or know] you are a side chick... there is no point of being in that relationship! Leave and run away from that dude FULL SPEED!!!!!! Ladies.. what we deserve is love, happiness, and peace at mind. When you are with someone and you know that there love is for you and only you, then you know you have found the one. STRAIGHT UP! No one, male or female should have to wonder.. Is he [she] cheating on me? Is he [she] with her [him]? Does he [she] still love her [him]? Those are questions that you should NOT even be asking yourself. Never let anyone use you. I don't believe in using anyone for anything, and i treat other the way i would want to be treated. Sometimes in life we run into people who take advantage of our heart, feelings, gratitude, kindness, and love. The best thing to do in a situation like this is to walk away before things get worse. Don't ever subject yourself to standers lower then your expectations...[and we should all have high expectations]. We all deserve the finer things in life *long pause* and being a side chick is surely not in the FINER category!

Any Regrets?..... NO!

I have never liked change. I have always been the type of person who liked to keep the normal routine... "Get in, Get Out, & Get on with your life." Lately for me it has been change, after change, after change...*long pause*... after change! For my personal life, to my work like, to my living situations... i feel like my whole life is changing right before my eyes. Maybe i am to proud to admit it but deep inside i am afraid of change...no no no... more like terrified. I feel like when things change you lose a part of yourself with it. Although i have not gotten used to all the changes that are taking part in my life now... i will say i am starting to accept things. I think there is a process with change.. Accepting it, Get used to it, and finally changing. They say sometimes change is a good thing. Which is true. In a way i look forward to what's a ahead for me in my life and future.. but at times it is scary. I am original from Miami, Florida and i took a road trip to Indianapolis, Indiana [Plainfeild, IN to be exact] to visit my mom, and let me tell you... it is a huge transition. From sun and beaches to snow and farms. Since a lot of things have been changing for me i have really just been in my own zone lately.. especially being that it is a new year i have really been on a whole other vibe. I look at how people react before i react and i take the time out to actually visualize what it going on. I notice the difference in attitudes people have here in Indiana compared to Miami [they are WAY more nicer then people in Florida!] , the difference in life style, music, food, culture, and just everyday living. I notice LIFE. All this time i was confided to my one area doing my same everyday routine, when there is a huge world out there to be explored. Now i'm not saying go explore the world.. [but if you do i admire you because that is something i would really like to do] but sometime you just have to see for yourself that there are other things in the world besides what you do everyday! There are other people, other places, other worlds! It took CHANGE to happened to me to realize that i was only secluding myself from other great opportunities. I do not regret the things that have happened to me thus far in my life, nor the people that have come in and out of my life. Lesson learn is what i have gained.. kind of like a crash course test of life. What i can say is although i have not live life to its fullest...[yet...] i think i have enough knowledge to know right from wrong.. with business, friends, money, and life choices. Yes Change is hard...[very hard at time]... Sitting back and having regret on the things in my life that have change.... No! 

Everything Happens For A Reason... Let Go & Let Be... Simply Life Life To It's Fullest. With No Regrets. 

New Year! New Beginnings!

*paula deans voice* Hey Yall... It's 2010!!!!! *dances around my room*  Soooo we finally made it to the new decade! A lot of things have happened to me in the past ten years... and lets just say i'm finally happy to put it all behind me and move forward with my life. Although we will all face more negativity in our future... i for one can say that i will learn how to deal with it from my past experiences from 2000-2009 *may those years R.I.P*. I just read some post's on Facebook a certain individual who i was VERY CLOSE with wrote about me.. and let's just say they were not true or nice... and i did not feel mad or sad... the only emotion i felt was pitty. Pitty because this person was entering this new year with lies, stress, and deceit. Along with the 2000-2009 i have also left this person in the past. Why... Why continue with the drama? I vow to let things "BE" with everyone. I recently went through my phone and deleted all the numbers of people who i feel i do not need to keep in contact with in this new year. *i'm not good with memorizing numbers so once its deleted out my iphone it's deleted out my memory lol* Make this year all about yourself! Put yourself 1st!!! Think about your feelings before the next person!!! & Don't let anyone take advantage of you!!! "Be careful with who you give your heart to and who you let into your life." 


2010: We Only Have One Life To Live. So Live It To It's Fullest. =)


The reason i put my eyes as the blog picture is because "i see no evil" i can see right through a lot of people and there ways... Use your eyes to visualize what you want in life and distinguish right from wrong... and who is RIGHT and who is WRONG in your life... [if you know what i mean]. ;). 


...Be Blessed This New Years!