In 2010...

This might just be my last blog of 2009. But don't worry i will be writing many more in 2010. Once a new year comes around everyone makes the ever so famous "New Years Resolutions" which basically only last the first two months and people are back to do there regular two step and going back to how they used to be or what they used to normally do. I decided that for my 2010 new years resolution i will simple "STAY TRUE TO MYSELF". Next year I will be..



Goofy.. 
goofy |ˈgoōfē| adjective ( goofier , goofiest ) informal
1 foolish; harmlessly eccentric..

Reserved..reserved |riˈzərvd|adjective1 slow to reveal emotion or opinions. 2 kept specially for a particular purpose or person.Lovable..lovable |ˈləvəbəl| (also loveable)adjectiveinspiring or deserving love or affection.MySelf..myself |mīˈself; mə-|pronoun [ first person singular ]1 [ reflexive ] used by a speaker to refer to himself or herself as the object of a verb or preposition when he or she is the subject of the clause.

Why make up a list of things you want to do and accomplish? Be yourself, Be

original, Be spontaneous, Be unique, Be focused, Be well grounded... a resolution
should not be.. I want  lose 20 lbs by the summer, or want to make this much

money by the winter. NO! If anything one other new years resolution should be to

"Better Yourself". If you stay true to yourself and do things to better yourself... trust

me... you will better your situation. Slowly but surely by doing that you will achieve

all the goals you want to achieve without even realizing it. =)

ME FAKE??? NO WAY JOSE!!!

So today i was told i was FAKE. *long silence* Want to know why i was called fake??? Because i simply wear make up... *giggles* If you know me well enough, and have been a friend of mines for a long time... then you would know that i am absolutely obsessed with make up [MAC Make-up :) preferable]. To be told i was fake because of what i wear on my face seems to be oddly hilarious to me. "Never judge a book  by it cover". My definition of Fake is:
  
Fake : |fāk|
nouna thing that is not genuine; a forgery or sham: the painting was a fake.* a person who appears or claims to be something that they are not.

Now i got that from the dictionary! No where in there does it say you are fake because you wear make up. In a sense it tickles me to know someone would think that of me knowing that i'm far from being anything near the word FAKE. To Judge me is to know me. And if you don't know me... then don't judge me. Simple isn't it? To all my followers and anonymous blog readers... Never let someone knock you for what you wear.. how you do your hair.. the music you like.. or how you do your make up. Its one thing to criticize but another to make assumptions on someone personality without knowing them. I rather the person say "Hey why are you so weird?" rather then "Hey why are you so fake?" Because rather then being FAKE i am a little WERID and oddly STRANGE lol but then again... who am i to judge myself??? *giggle*

7 Signs.. To know you mean nothing to them.

This will be a very short, getting right to the point blog. Here are 7 signs that he/she is a flaw, creep, and running game on you. In my opinion its time to let them go if you are experiencing any of the following...


*  THEY ALWAYS CALLING YOU BLOCK - If you are seeing this person [meaning boyfriend/girlfriend] and they always call you off a block number.. *serious face* now you know... something ain't right if you can't have your boyfriends/girlfriends phone number lol!


*  THEY ONLY TRIES TO SEE YOU AFTER 10PM - You are simply a booty call. [period. point.blank]


*  AFTER 1 YEAR YOU HAVEN'T MET ANY FAMILY MEMBERS - lol... this is because someone else is already in the family. 


*  YOU CAN NEVER GO OUT ON A DATE WITH THEM - This is because they do not want to be seen in public with you. Word can get out and their cover will be blown!


* YOUR NUMBER IS NOT SAVE IN THIER PHONE - you tell me why your number isn't saved in their phone.. i would love to hear you answer!


*  HIS/HER PHONE STAYS BLOWING UP WITH LATE NIGHT CALLS/TXT -  Obviously "someone" is trying to reach them and it ain't YOU.


* YOU FIND A USED CONDOM IN THERE BED ROOM - Well........ This should speak for its self. The End!!!


IDK why i wrote this blog lol but i just felt like sometimes we settle for less because we are blinded by the love or lust.. whatever it is that makes you oblivious to the signs that are staring us right in the face. Trust me there are many many many more signs but for now these are the ones that came to my head and tickled me. *giggles* Love is truly blinding to some of us.. and sometimes we the opinion of an outside viewer to help us see our mistakes [proof readers] :) ohhh and if you can relate with any of these signs *serious face* i think you need to do like Keyshia Cole's song and "LET IT GO" 8)

Have You Found The One?

How do you know when you have found the one? That is a question i have had on my mind for a while. I think we have all had that one special person in our life who we ALWAYS compare everyone else too.. right? 95% of the time when we are with someone NEW we always have in the back of our minds that OTHER person who we compare and contrast with everyone who has the potential of being with you. I feel one good way you can tell you have found the one is when you stop comparing to that certain person you have held on a pedestal for so long. When you are finally able to be with a new person and see them for them, i think an alarm should go off in your head *ding ding ding* that its time to take the OLD person off that pedestal, kick them to the curb, and add this new person to the top. There is no need to hold on to the past, the only things we should hold on to are the memories wither they were good or bad. In my opinion "if one person is not doing the job right... it's time to lay them off... because there is always someone else who has a good well written resume and is ready to apply for the job." Be with someone who makes you laugh, be with someone who makes you smile, be with someone who shows you they care, and be with someone who wants to be with YOU :)


Never settle for less then what you deserve.

...DiFFeReNt...

I decided to be a totally different person 2010. This year has been full of up's and down's for me. Meeting new friends, Breaking ties with old friends, changing my living situation, changing my career path, and etc. Normally i try to always keep things on a neutral level with everyone.. wither they do me wrong, i never hold a grudge [hey what can i say.. i have always been a nice :) person].  But i think come 2010 my new years resolution will be one word... "Different".  I will do things DIFFERENT, think things DIFFERENT, and see things DIFFERENT. It's time for a change... "who's with me?" *looks around the room* I have always been the type of person to be quite and observe things around other people.. but i never sat back to observe what's going on with me. Sometimes we have to step outside ourselves and pin point the things in our life that are holding us back and bring negativity.. and simply GET RID OF THEM. For me 2010 will be about just being different and doing things in a different manner. *mumbles* and go on a diet but.. thats on the top of everyones new years resolution list isn't it? *giggles*

Action Speak Louder The Words

I think the title of this blog speaks for its self? Don't you agree. I have a couple of pet peeves but the three that really really really just crawl under my skin are..


* Constantly Questioning Me.
* Having To Repeating Myself.
* People Who Are All Talk & No Action.

Why.. why tell someone one thing but act a different way? If you say something, your literally just speaking. There is this old saying i'm pretty sure everyone has heard when they were a child "Sticks & Stone May Break My Bones... But Words Will Never Hurt Me." When i first heard this when i was younger i took it in as.. no matter what a person says to you to try and hurt your feelings, lower your self esteem, and bring down your ego.. words are simply words.. although it may hurt your feelings at the moment they are said.. they can not do any physical damage to you because they are simply WORDS nothing more or nothing less. But when i start to look at it from a different perspective.. Words can not hurt me... Correct... But Sticks and Stones can really hurt if someone throw that shit at you hard enough! Because it is a action someone is doing to physical hurt you. So in this situation ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THEN THE WORDS.... The whole point i'm trying to get to is WHY constantly tell someone certain things and not put any effort into what you are saying??? i don't get the point. "Don't talk about it, be about it." Thats just how i feel. Someone can keep telling me they gonna give me a million dollars... but until i see you put that mill in my hands... all that shit you talking don't mean a damn thing. period. point. blank.end of convo. I don't have time for games and i'm pretty sure you guys don't either. The last thing i let people do is play with my emotions, family, & my money. If you miss someone.. SEE THEM. If you love someone.. TELL THEM. If you want to be with someone put in the EFFORT. Use actions to show someone you care.. Words go in one ear and out the other.. So unless you throwing a stick or stone at me to get my attention... i ain't looking back to hear you.

Excepting Change

Change is a good thing. Excepting the change is the hard part. I have never been good at excepting change and the process you have to go through before change takes place. I have been going through some changes in my life lately that has me readjusting to certain situations.. and in the beginning i never showed any emotions [i think i'm always a reserved person when my emotions come into play] and i just tried to go with the flow and do what i had to do to get to where i had to go. But today is when it hit me that with change.. some things will never be the same anymore... and sometimes [depending on the situation] that can be a scary thought. When you are used to a everyday routine that gets  familiar and safe, changing it to something that is unfamiliar and scary can take a toll on you. I guess gradually you will get used to change which is most likely what happens when change takes place. Im always for moving forward with your life because the sky is the limit *biggie smalls voice* ... but let me be the first to say EXCEPTING CHANGE IS NEVER EASY. Sometimes i wish things can go back to how it used to be.. but Everything Happens For A Reason, Always Gotta Keep Your Head Up, Have Tunnel Vision To Focus On What Your Trying Reach, and Keep It Moving Forward. 

The only reason you should look back through your rear view mirror is to laugh at silly memories and think back on previous life lessons learned. Keep your eyes focused on your windshield and stay on the right path to where life has to take you. -Stephanie Riles

Apply Now: Haterz

Fist and foremost let me start off by saying... "I LOVE ALL MY HATERS" *jay-z voice*
I’m pretty sure a lot of you can agree with me [hopefully] that haters are our motivators!
If I’m rocking something FLY or rocking something STRANGE if a bitch [or nigga, dog, cat, horse, rat, etc] got something negative to say about it.. you just hating because you can't have the self confidence to do what I’m doing, wear what I’m wearing, or be who I am.. and that’s just how I feel. "Never knock someone for what they do. And never envy someone for something you can't have." Instead on hating on the next person.. you should look in the mirror and hate on yourself for being a damn hater! [does that make any sense? lol well anyway I hope you can feel me] The more someone hates on me the more I know I’m doing something right.. it makes me strive to keep up what I’m doing.. it pushes me to do better.......... and to be honest it makes me giggle [and we all know I love to laugh.. lol] Hating is a ugly trait :( and I don't like to be associated with ugly [that's why im NOT a hater] and I hope you don't either! Instead of hating let us PRAISE and ADMIRE other people for what they do.. but then again.. I must say although hating is a very ugly thing.. I still LOVE all my haters in the world *clears throat to give my acceptance speech* BECAUSE WITHOUT YOU GUYS *takes deep breath*I WOULD NOT BE THE STARR I AM TODAY *takes bow* Thank You! *blows kisses* :-D

Stay On My Grind

I NEVER had any RESPECT for a female who constantly brag about having they man pay for her bills, nails, hair, food, clothes, etc. FYI you want to know how yall females sound telling everyone you have someone else pay for the necessities you need? LAME
If I was a dude I would rather hear a chick brag about how she can go out there in the world and get things for herself.. rather then have a guy [or guys] do it for her. As far back as I can remember I ain't never had to go out and ask someone for anything.. I ain't never begged a guy to buy me clothes, put gas in my car, put food in my mouth, pay for my phone bill, help pay my car note... NONE OF THAT! lol and I find it funny females still do that now-a-days and think it's cute.. when in all reality its sad...
I’m proud to say that "if i want something i can go out and get it" and the only way I can say that is because I stay on my GRIND and I go out and get mines! Never depend on someone to help you do the things you need to do to get ahead in the game.. Depend on yourself to get you where you need to go in life. Its ok to take help every once in a while.. but being DEPENDENT on someone is a big NO NO *waves index finger back and forth* in my book.. "Strive To Achieve The Best Things In Life.. And Stay On Your Grind To Get What You Want."
While listening to this song Stop Hatin - By: Trina she said and I quote:
"I Can Spend It All And Don't Think About Tomorrow Cuz I’m Self-Made Bitch I Ain't Never Had To Borrow."
She could not have express the way I feel any better.. and ladies if you can't relate to that quote.... not even a little bit... Shit bad for you poopoo! *giggles*

Too Late

Lately I have been a mediator to a friend of mines who is having martial problems and his situation really hit home to my heart just because I could semi relate to his dilemma [even thou I’m far from being married!! *_*] I’m not going to go into details about the whole situation because of privacy issues... But I will say it trickles down to my last post about being happy. How can you be with someone and not be happy? what's holding you back??
Just because you have history with a person doesn’t mean that, that's why you have to stay with them... sometimes even if we fail to see and realize it... "love dies" and sooner or later you have to move on.
On a different note... I also had another question on my brain... [I’m full of puzzling question these days] How long can you wait for someone to decided to be with you? I know we have all been in love before, most of us been dumped, or been the dumpy.. but if you really love someone.. and want to be with that one person should you hold on to them? Even if they show you interest every once and in while or when it convenient from them? What do you gain out of that? Because it looks to me you are only there because the person know you will always be there... and to me that’s flat out wrong!
I don't think anyone should be left on the sideline with the three question marks over there head wondering and still holding on to hope that one day that person you love will decide to love you back... its sad to be in love with someone who does not love you they way you love them... I feel like you should always... ALWAYS.. put yourself FIRST!!! No matter what! LOVE is a strong thing that can make us do things that we never imagined and yet.. tear us up inside and out...
At times we do not realize what we have until it's gone [sooo true]. I do think its never to late to do anything.. but sometimes in all reality it is. In life you have to make wise decisions.. and now a days a lot of people just jump the gun with out thinking out everything... don't get me wrong I’m a spontaneous person and I don’t over analyze things.. but when it comes to marriage, kids, business, and... *pause* LOVE.. that is nothing to jump the gun with...
"Jump The Gun.. You Might End Up Shooting Yourself."
Let me make a LONG story into a MIDGET [lmao code for "short"] "Happiness" seems to work its way right back into my mind... be happy with who makes you happy.. love someone who loves you back equally or more.. show the one you love you care.. and don't let the one who loves you get away for someone who doesn't love you back... it shouldn't have to take a drastic situation for you to finally realize what you had starting you in the face all along.


*StaRR*

Does Happiness Mean Anything Anymore?

Q: Do you really need a significant other to be happy? 


This is a question i asked myself today. Is there really a need to have a certain someone in your life to make you truly happy? What will having the person bring to your life??? In my opinion i feel like there is no need to have someone titled as your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, or what have you. lol no i am not a bitter person but i just feel like whats the point? Marriage can be a beautiful thing but it can also be a ugly thing. Every relationship has there ups and down.. but if you are with someone for so many years and after half your freaking life goes by spending it with this certain person.. things decided to go wrong and you end up splitting up... all those years invested in to the marriage or relationship goes completely down the drain..*pause* what do you have to gain from that? knowledge? GTFOH... i understand "in life you live and you learn" i stand by that quote [not sure who made that quote up but the get cool point for it] but DAMN.. whats the purpose of being with someone when 87% of the time things like cheating, betraying, and lies come into play... and you end up leaving the person or they end up leaving you?? is going through that happiness?????? 
Maybe i'm just in a EMO mood right now... but i just don't see the point.. can't you be happy alone? 
The whole reason i decided to blog about this was because of a situation i seen today.. really had me thinking.... everything that glitters isn't gold [thats for damn sure] and sometimes taking that risk of giving someone your all just isn't worth it in the end. 
Q: Do you really need a significant other to be happy? 
My Answer: HELL NO!!! You must 1st be content with being alone b4 you can be happy with someone else.. because most of the time you might just end up right back by yourself lol.
Till next time..
*Starr*

To Maintain Insanity

Want to maintain a healthy level of insanity while at work or when your alone? *giggles* how about you try the following:


1. At Lunch Time, Sit In Your Parked Car With Sunglasses on and point a Hair Dryer At Passing Cars.
See If They Slow Down.
2. Page Yourself Over The Intercom. Don't Disguise Your Voice. !
3. Every Time Someone Asks You To Do Something, ask If They Want Fries with that.
4. Put Decaf In The Coffee Maker For 3 Weeks . Once Everyone has Gotten Over Their Caffeine Addictions, Switch to Espresso.
5. In the Memo Field Of All Your Checks, Write ' For Marijuana'
6. Skip down the hall Rather Than Walk and see how many looks you get.
7. Order a Diet Water whenever you go out to eat, with a serious face.
8. Specify That Your Drive-through Order Is 'To Go'.
9. Sing Along At The Opera.
10. Five Days In Advance, Tell Your Friends You Can't Attend Their Party Because You have a headache.
11. When The Money Comes Out The ATM, Scream 'I Won! I Won!'
12. When Leaving the Zoo, Start Running towards the Parking lot, Yelling 'Run For Your Lives! They're Loose!'
13. Tell Your Children Over Dinner, 'Due To The Economy, We Are Going To Have To Let One Of You Go.'
And The Final Way To Keep A Healthy Level Of Insanity
14. PICK UP A BOX OF CONDOMS AT THE PHARMACY, GO TO THE COUNTER AND ASK WHERE THE FITTING ROOM IS.
Life is seriously too shorty to be so uptight & afraid. You gotta live life to it's fullest even if it involves making a ass out of yourself just to make someone else smile.. its all about having fun and being able to make memories.. happy memories that will always put a smile on your face when you sit back and think about them. =)


Till Next Time! xoxo
*Starr*

New.. Beginnings..

So.. im pretty new to the blogging thing.. but i said to myself.. "stephanie since you like to twitter so much.. and put your two sense in on different topics that are going on why not become a blogger?" *muffled giggle* I mean i feel this is a good way to express yourself even thou people will always criticize you for your every opinion.. i feel everyone is in tilted to speak there mind in and way shape or form... right or wrong?? I mean there is sooo much a person can keep inside until it comes out. well thats just how i feel.

Humm.. Well i still need sometime to figure out more about this blogging stuff.. but I'm looking forward on posting more crap so stay tuned =)

Till Later xoxo

*StaRR*